Monday, September 2, 2013

How To Get A Girl's Number

By Anthony Birdwood


One of the most common questions guys ask is, "I want to know how to get a girls number?"Well, we all know there's a simple answer: You ASK for it.But what most guys are REALLY asking is: "How do I get a girls number without being afraid of rejection - or being turned down?"There are 3 secret steps for to how to get a girls number. If you follow these, you'll have NO problem in getting her number.Oh, and a little side benefit here is that you'll also avoid her Flaking out on you later on. Ever call up a number a woman gave you and get "The number you have reached...." No more of that.

How to get a girls number - Step 1) Nuke her fear.The one thing a woman is leery of when men approach her is that the interaction will get weird - or even creepy. She's just as afraid of things getting awkward as you are, and that should be a relief for you to hear. That means you're not the only one with a little nervousness going on.So one thing you can do to alleviate that fear she has is to not appear needy or like you're just trying to pick up on her. Yes, you want to seem interested in her as a woman, but you don't want to appear to be in it for just the personal gain.

The first call to action and rule of thumb is to be yourself. No put ons, being phony or fake is useless. Just be your real, optimistic self. The self that always strives to do his best in a new meeting with someone, be it work, play, or unexpected circumstances. If the ambiance is a bar, for instance, a hint of confidence goes a long way in your initial approach to a girl. Mix that with a bit of humor about the environment (is it me, or does it sound like a lot of geese in here?), and you have likely broken the ice to capture her interest to talk with you to get to know you.

When you are having a conversation with this girl, by all means give her you're full attention, engage her, spark her interest, but don't stay too long. When the conversation is still going well say something like "It's been great chatting but I better get back to my friends." But as your walking away turn back as if it's an afterthought, and say something like "Hey, do you have email?" This works like a charm, believe me! You could also ask for her email. It's not her phone phone number but you may find she offers this instead. You could also just ask if she's OK Facebook... who isn't these days?Ending the conversation while it's still engaging will do two things: raise your status in her mind and give you an excuse to catch up another time.

Be a detailed listener. Initialize eye contact, listen, absorb, react, and emote. Always be sure to give her the floor to talk, give her space to express herself. Never be the type of guy with whom she doesn't feel rapport from at all since you are not letting her participate. If she is not a talker, listen all the same for cues about her interests and how she says things with her eyes and gestures.

With tough competition out there in the dating arena it's almost become impossible to get girls to give you her phone number easily. If you directly ask for a girl's phone number than there is a very high chance that you might not get it at all. There you need to ask in a manner that she ends up giving it to you herself. Read on to find out how you can get a girls phone number.

Get her interested in you- She would never give you her phone number unless she is totally interested in you and your personality. So the very first step towards getting her phone number is to get her interested in you. There are several ways to get girls interested in you but the best one is the cheeky way of approaching them. Try to be a cheeky flirt and approach them as if they need you. Make them feel a bit inferior and you would generate instant attention there and then.

Asking for the number. The final say comes when you need to ask for the number. However, this is a non issue because of the work you've done ahead of time in building rapport. You shouldn't be concerned, it will be natural. Whenever you find something you both are interested in, simply add "we should try that together some time..." Usually she will say it for you. From there, you can take a natural step to request for her number. Just add "let's trade cell phones and I'll call you to set it up.... here, pen your name and number in." and give her your phone.

So if you truly want to know how to get a girl's number, empty your mind from the cheesy ways you have seen guys try in person, in the movies, or even just your imagination. Beyond feeling drawn to you, keep in mind that a girl has to be comfortable with you for her to give you her number. The harder task of developing comfort (this is where many guys fail) often begins after you have exuded the confidence to attract her. Be authentic, be true, be optimistic and take the important points of this article to heart. This is how to get a girl's number - for real.

This is a very basic question and will start to build a yes ladder. She will answer yes and you then hand her the pen and paper and tell her to write it down. You treat her yes as confirmation that she wants to give you her email. This is also an attraction test and the more she invests in you, the more she will be willing to invest in the future. As she is writing down her email address, you simply say, ""Write down your number too!".In the example above, you have broken down the giving of the number into two steps, which dramatically improves the chances. The strength of this method is that you are asking them to write their phone number down as they are writing down their email and, in doing so; you have built a very powerful compliance momentum.By asking for her email, you have given her a very small attraction test and if you have any value built at all, she will comply with you. It's very low risk and most people give out an email address without thinking about it. Asking for the phone number is much more personal, but by asking for it while they are writing down their email, your chances of success will skyrocket. Try it and you will realise how powerful this is!




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