Wednesday, December 4, 2013

Your Best Bet For Getting Your Girlfriend Back

By Brenda Richards


The frustration of trying to win over your ex girlfriend or trying to get her to even consider getting back together can be frustrating. I hope to help you out a little bit with this. I want to share with you a secret that will get her wanting to talk with you again and at least open that door to reconciliation again. I want you to be happy and I know how difficult it is to deal with being apart from someone you care about. I know the sadness and pain that a breakup can cause and it's my life's work to bring couples back together even when things seem impossible.

First, you need to stop trying so hard to get your ex girlfriend back. By chasing after her and trying to talk to her or change her mind you're only making matters worse. There is a basic rule in relationships that the more you chase after someone, the more they run away from you. The more you want to win her over the more resistant she is going to be to this idea. Respect her decision for the moment and understand that the more you push, the more she's going to run away from you. The more you try to convince her to give your relationship a second chance, the more she's going to want to date someone else.

Right now your ex has it in their mind that your only goal is to get back together. Any promises that you make or words that you speak are tainted by your seeming desire to posess them and get back together with them.

To end his temper tantrum the best thing that you can do is to ignore it and go about your business. A wise parent keeps calm and either sends a child to their room or to sit somewhere so they can wind down and realise that their bad behavior isn't getting them the reaction that they were hoping for. Then, a really smart parent will begin doing something interesting to get that child's attention. Once the child is done being bad, they will come to the parent and want to be part of the interesting activity.

It is only once your ex has a desire or even an inkling of a desire to spend time with you and talk with you that things will begin to change. Creating that desire is rather simple

. You have a history and many happy memories that you can use as a tool to reignite that passion, desire and romance. Of course, simply throwing a bunch of picture of the two of you together in their face isn't going to get you that desire. Remember that right now your ex is only thinking that you're trying to manipulate them. This is why it is necessary to allow your ex to cool off a bit. Give them some time. Allow a short amount of time to pass and heal those open wounds.

Take advantage of this time apart and while you're waiting for time to do its healing thing, begin to create a life that will be attractive to your ex. Start doing things that you think that your ex might want to do. Even little things like going somewhere during the weekend or making some changes to your house are enough to get their interest. Start working out or studying something new.

While this is only a rough outline of a successful plan to get your ex girlfriend back, it does require nerves of steel. There will be times when you will want to reach out to her. You'll want to hear her voice or see her face. You'll want to try things the old fashioned way but you need to resist that temptation. Think of the big picture and the long haul. Remember, you might only get one more chance at a second chance with her so you have to make this one count and playing off of her female psychology and her emotional hot buttons is the way to go if you want to get back together with her.




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