Wednesday, October 25, 2017

With Couples Therapy Virginia Beach Relationships Are More Likely To Last

By Steven King


Intimate relationships between two people that want to share their lives with each other can be extremely complicated. Entering into such a relationship should never be rushed. Many people do so without truly knowing their partners, his or her likes and dislikes or their own expectations from the relationship. This can easily lead to arguments and conflict. By insisting on couples therapy Virginia Beach citizens are more likely to enter into relationships that will last.

The very nature of modern relationships have changed. In the past sex outside the marriage bond was forbidden. People did not live together before they got married and a child outside of wedlock was a terrible shame. All these taboos are now gone. Women have their own careers and they take charge of their own bodies. They play a more active role in their relationships and sometimes men find this intimidating.

Many relationships fail because the partnership was formed for the wrong reasons. Some people enter into a relationship to obtain regular sex. Others feel more secure when in a relationship. Yet others need financial security or the social status that a partner offers. It is no wonder that such relationships rarely last. A therapist can help people to identify their own needs and to make sure that they choose a partner that will fulfil those needs.

When a relationship breaks up there is always pain and emotions involved. If the relationship produced children then it is imperative to do everything possible to minimize the trauma caused by the breakup. Seeing a qualified counsellor can help a couple to deal with a separation in an adult, conflict free manner. There are often many decisions that must be made and this is best done with the help of a reputable counsellor.

It is interesting to note that many people in stable, loving relationships also see therapists regularly. They do not necessarily experience problems, but they know that there is always a danger of their relationship becoming stagnant. They see a therapist to keep their relationship satisfying and exciting. The therapist helps them to identify ways in which they can improve on their relationship. It is not surprising to learn that such relationships often last for many years.

Relationships often fail because one or both partners allow small matters to become big problems. They do not address small problems and eventually such problems can accumulate to the extent where they become huge issues. By seeing a therapist they can learn to deal with conflict by means of effective communication and to save their relationships by acting in time.

In some cases a therapist will advise a patient to get out of a specific relationship. If the other partner is abusive, unable to contribute to the relationship, unwilling to satisfy the needs of the other partner or dependent upon drugs and alcohol then the chances of the relationship surviving are small indeed. It is then best to get out early and to see the failed relationship as a life lesson.

Relationships are complicated. When two people want to be together they have to learn to get along together, to respect each other and to sacrifice for each other. They have to accept that each partner is still a unique person with individual goals wishes and needs.




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