It's a well known fact that guys can lose interest in a relationship very quickly. One day everything's fine, and you're being treated like a princess, the next day you're dumped and you didn't even see it coming. Follow these tips on how to keep him interested, and hopefully you'll stop your boyfriend's mind and heart from wandering.On the whole men avoid confrontation like the plague, and the words "we need to talk" make them run for the hills. If you want to know how to keep him interested, avoiding rows is a good way to start. Often men don't realise when they've upset you, and starting an argument about it will just push them away. If they've done something you're not happy with, have a calm conversation about it instead of a row, and make sure you have a kiss and cuddle after to show that everything's ok.
Although men tend to marry women who have the qualities mentioned above, they prefer to do the pursuing at the beginning of the relationship. They thrive on "the thrill of the chase," and lose interest if a woman is too available. To give him the illusion of being the one in pursuit, a woman would be wise to play a bit hard to get at first. Here's how:Don't always pick up the phone on the first ring. Let him wonder where you are and what you are doing.Don't be instantly available when he asks you out. Tell him you'll have to check your calendar. And don't accept the date if you have a conflict.If he texts you or calls, let him wait for an hour or so before you respond. Let him know you are a busy, active woman who has better things to do than sit around waiting for him to call.Do wait for him to ask you out. If you do the asking, you will take the excitement out of the chase.Be a little mysterious and a lot of fun.
In addition to wanting to be the pursuer, men look for a little mystery and intrigue in a woman that interests them. Don't be too forthcoming with all the details of your life. Let him find out gradually what kind of person you are.Dress and act a little sexy and provocative. Tease him a little and show him what a fun person you can be and he'll soon be coming back for more.Be sure to continue to pursue your own interests and keep up with your friends. Let him know you have a full, rich life of your own and are a confident, self-sufficient woman. Decoding male psychology and acting accordingly with go a long way toward building a lasting relationship with a man.
Have there been times in your relationship that you think that the spark is gone or that he's changed? My boyfriend once told me that sometimes he wishes women would truly hear and understand them. I have to agree. Most of them aren't the egotistical, self centered Neanderthals that we sometimes think they are. But at the risk of using a worn out clich, men at times are really misunderstood. Honestly, the times when you think they're losing interest and you doing anything and everything to keep him interested in you most of the time makes the situation worse. So I asked him what should we do? According to him, here are a few tips on how to keep a guy interested in you:
Have you ever been accused of being to clingy or smothering? After the discovery phase of a relationship, men generally don't talk too much. It's not that they've lost interest in you it's just that they feel more comfortable being with you or away from you. They go back to watching the game with the guys or attending the weekly poker night again. And please, no inquisitions afterwards. Men feel that they don't have to explain or elaborate on every single thing that they did while you were apart. Not that they don't want to share. They just don't feel l it's important. Trust me, if it were important, they'd share it with you.
This means that you will have to think like the guy. Don't try to reason things out like a woman because you will end up sobbing your heart out instead of looking at the facts in a logical manner. Look at your relationship through a microscope and find out if there are things that could make him slip away. Deal with those areas positively.A guy can only take that much! You may look like a sex bomb or a fashion model - but that does not guarantee your man's love and interest for a lifetime if you have a bad attitude. No one can stand a woman with a bad attitude so clean up your act!
Another sure fire way to keep him interested in you: Just as they need space so do you. As mentioned earlier, let him miss you. Have a night out with the girls. Go shopping. Resist the urge of wanting to be with him. Now this appeals to the more primitive side of man. They love a challenge. When he sees that you're not as available as you were at the start of the relationship, he slips into the puppy mode and tries to get back your attention. A word of caution: don't overdo it. Someone else might find your lost puppy and bring him home.
Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.
Although men tend to marry women who have the qualities mentioned above, they prefer to do the pursuing at the beginning of the relationship. They thrive on "the thrill of the chase," and lose interest if a woman is too available. To give him the illusion of being the one in pursuit, a woman would be wise to play a bit hard to get at first. Here's how:Don't always pick up the phone on the first ring. Let him wonder where you are and what you are doing.Don't be instantly available when he asks you out. Tell him you'll have to check your calendar. And don't accept the date if you have a conflict.If he texts you or calls, let him wait for an hour or so before you respond. Let him know you are a busy, active woman who has better things to do than sit around waiting for him to call.Do wait for him to ask you out. If you do the asking, you will take the excitement out of the chase.Be a little mysterious and a lot of fun.
In addition to wanting to be the pursuer, men look for a little mystery and intrigue in a woman that interests them. Don't be too forthcoming with all the details of your life. Let him find out gradually what kind of person you are.Dress and act a little sexy and provocative. Tease him a little and show him what a fun person you can be and he'll soon be coming back for more.Be sure to continue to pursue your own interests and keep up with your friends. Let him know you have a full, rich life of your own and are a confident, self-sufficient woman. Decoding male psychology and acting accordingly with go a long way toward building a lasting relationship with a man.
Have there been times in your relationship that you think that the spark is gone or that he's changed? My boyfriend once told me that sometimes he wishes women would truly hear and understand them. I have to agree. Most of them aren't the egotistical, self centered Neanderthals that we sometimes think they are. But at the risk of using a worn out clich, men at times are really misunderstood. Honestly, the times when you think they're losing interest and you doing anything and everything to keep him interested in you most of the time makes the situation worse. So I asked him what should we do? According to him, here are a few tips on how to keep a guy interested in you:
Have you ever been accused of being to clingy or smothering? After the discovery phase of a relationship, men generally don't talk too much. It's not that they've lost interest in you it's just that they feel more comfortable being with you or away from you. They go back to watching the game with the guys or attending the weekly poker night again. And please, no inquisitions afterwards. Men feel that they don't have to explain or elaborate on every single thing that they did while you were apart. Not that they don't want to share. They just don't feel l it's important. Trust me, if it were important, they'd share it with you.
This means that you will have to think like the guy. Don't try to reason things out like a woman because you will end up sobbing your heart out instead of looking at the facts in a logical manner. Look at your relationship through a microscope and find out if there are things that could make him slip away. Deal with those areas positively.A guy can only take that much! You may look like a sex bomb or a fashion model - but that does not guarantee your man's love and interest for a lifetime if you have a bad attitude. No one can stand a woman with a bad attitude so clean up your act!
Another sure fire way to keep him interested in you: Just as they need space so do you. As mentioned earlier, let him miss you. Have a night out with the girls. Go shopping. Resist the urge of wanting to be with him. Now this appeals to the more primitive side of man. They love a challenge. When he sees that you're not as available as you were at the start of the relationship, he slips into the puppy mode and tries to get back your attention. A word of caution: don't overdo it. Someone else might find your lost puppy and bring him home.
Probably one of the more common mistakes (that you don't even realize or won't admit you've been doing) is taking him for granted. Whatever happened to that sexy, hot and interesting woman he fell in love with? Just because you've been together for years doesn't give you the right to put on 20 pounds and go out in jogging pants and an old college sweater. Always try to look good both for yourself and for him.
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