Thursday, October 17, 2013

Positive Thoughts And How To Get Past Negativity

By Marina Babenko


Are negative thoughts and worrying keeping you from being happy? Do you wish that you could be optimistic about your future but fear and worry about your current situation are destroying any attempt to change your life? Worry and fear can be very powerful emotions and they can overwhelm us and make it seem like we will be stuck with the life we're living forever. Depression, sadness and a desire to just give up are an everyday part of our lives. We want to be happy and we want to solve all the problems that we have but what can be done? How can you make the changes necessary when you are filled with these terrible emotions? Trying to just think positive doesn't work and these negative emotions just keep on coming back again and again.

When our life is in turmoil, often mornings are the most difficult time. You're confronted with worry and fear before you even get out of bed. It's another day filled with the same problem that you had when you went to sleep and chances are you didn't sleep very well, to begin with. You dread the day with the job that you despise or the relationship that you wish would change or the impending phone calls from bill collectors. No matter what the situation might be, it greets you as your reality seeps in and you're defeated before the day even begins.

Do yourself a favor and put those negative thoughts on the back burner. Tell yourself that you're not going to focus on the negative things in your life in the morning. Give yourself a break and tell yourself that you will think about the problems in your life later. Be gentle with yourself and allow yourself some time to wake up. The problems will still be there later on during the day and worrying about a solution isn't going to help you become motivated first thing in the morning. Tell yourself that you're not going to even think about the problem until you have had a cup of coffee.

Knowing that you're thinking in a negative fashion or that you're worrying excessively is another thing that you can do to circumvent the real problem at hand. Knowing that you're working against yourself and focusing on the problem instead of allowing a solution to come into your mind might be a good way to look at this. Fear and worry cloud your judgement. They block your intuition while positive thoughts filled with optimism about your ability to find a solution to the problem at hand helps your mind to work to find that solution.

Any time you can recognize that you're wasting time worrying about the problems in your life, stop. Just stop and tell yourself that worry never solved anything. While some worry can motivate us to do something about a dangerous situation, too much worry can cause us to freeze up. This is our fight or flight instinct. Be sure that you're not allowing your worry or focus on a bad situation to cause you to freeze in your tracks like a deer in a car's headlights and if this is the case tell yourself that you're going to use this instinct to propel you towards finding a solution instead. Visualize what you want to happen or your life without the problem in it. Look to the future and feel what it will be like to be free of the problem and exactly how you want your life to be.

Being tough on yourself when these negative emotions invade your serenity can be difficult at times. You might think that you spend more time trying to push back against these emotions than you do living in this happy, positive state but if you're persistent, eventually being positive in light of any circumstance will become a habit. Being happy and optimistic is healthier and more productive than being negative and pessimistic. Knowing this and acting upon this knowledge can help you to make the changes necessary in your life to bring your dreams to reality.

Allowing yourself to dream and finding a little quite time alone in each and every day is also helpful. No matter what the situation might be, push aside the trouble and fill this time with nothing but dreams of happiness, success and love. Gather photos that bring you joy, listen to some peaceful music playing softly in the background and let yourself live in that time when everything is exactly the way that you want it to be. You deserve to be happy and you have the ability to solve any problem in your life. Your thoughts are the plans for your future and without these thoughts you will remain stuck in your present reality. Allow these methods to become a part of your daily routine. Soon you'll find that you're happier, your problems become smaller and solutions to what formerly seemed overwhelming come to you easily.




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