The Initial Approach is probably the most difficult and arguably the most important part of interacting with a new woman. The way you open a woman will either get you in the door to initiate your game or it will get you a fat rejection. So if you have a bad opening, you will never be able to approach women successfully.
The first thing you need to do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, manage your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn how to effectively open women. The opening is not really too complex nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only 2 primary things you need to be concerned about. It's just that you need to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say
A gorgeous woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Many of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a cool purse." kind of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the dozens of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be quite natural, fluid, and women respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This indicates that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will establish a more friendly atmosphere. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, combined with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can quicken attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to face the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Turn your body to her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem to be anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon solid attraction psychology. By presenting negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as needy or desperate and are showing you do not require her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "I've only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "One more thing before I go..." and grab their number.
Shift into A2 stage. This is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, tricks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc.
The first thing you need to do if you want to approach women effectively is to work on your appearance, work on your self-confidence, manage your approach anxiety, and afterwards learn how to effectively open women. The opening is not really too complex nor is it hard to pull off. There is basically only 2 primary things you need to be concerned about. It's just that you need to get over your approach anxiety and actually APPROACH women.
1) Have something ready to say
A gorgeous woman or even a semi-attractive woman was flirted and hit on many times before you came along. Many of those losers had bad to marginal opening lines and probably resorted to "it sure is crowded in here" or "that's a cool purse." kind of boring drivel. You have to distance yourself from the dozens of losers she has turned down and demonstrate high value by being witty, intriguing, and/or different (in a good way).
Since you're about to puke just getting over approach anxiety and actually cold approach a woman, it is best to have a couple of canned openers that has been repeatedly tested with women and is proven to work. Most of the cheesy pickup lines smell bad and make you look silly and downright desperate, so stay away from the "did you fall from heaven?" types and pick some imaginative, natural sounding ones.
The book "Mating Intelligence Unleashed" says that the majority of women would prefer an indirect approach over a direct approach so pick a couple of indirect openers, memorize it, and practice, practice, practice. I find the opinion asking ones to be quite natural, fluid, and women respond well to them.
2) Body language and presentation.
Bear in mind, 55% of communication is visual (body language, eye contact), 38 % is vocal (pitch, speed, volume, tone of voice), and 7 % is actual words. This indicates that what you say is just garnish to how you say it or how you present yourself when you say it.
Smile on the approach! A smile will disarm, de-guard, and de-bitch any woman and it will establish a more friendly atmosphere. You also need to keep strong eye contact. Strong eye contact, combined with a lower voice tone and slower speech patterns, can quicken attraction, comfort, and trust.
Give her negative body language! This means to face the front of your body away from her and just turn your head to her. Turn your body to her only when she qualifies herself (i.e. says something witty/sexy). This might seem to be anti-intuitive but it works and is based upon solid attraction psychology. By presenting negative body language, you demonstrate high value because you don't come off as needy or desperate and are showing you do not require her attention or approval.
At the same time you will need to display confident, alpha male body language: chest out, shoulders back. If you don't know how to display confident hands, just hang it by your side, or animate it by talking with them.
That's it! From here you can:
Throw in some time constraint techniques such as, "I've only got a minute because I'm meeting my friends, but I have to say..." or "One more thing before I go..." and grab their number.
Shift into A2 stage. This is where you hook them by flaunting your high value with such things as stories, tricks, magic demonstrations, psychic readings, negging (veiled teasing), leading the conversation, etc.
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