As the main person involved in all of these things, you would really have to pay attention to what you are saying and doing. That is the main reason why this article is here. If you would use it to your advantage, then you would not have anything to worry about during family meetings.
For starters, you would have to be on the offensive side as much as possible. Keep in mind that it is not your fault that you have Catholic grandparents. You would just have to try to be on their good side until the day is over. If you would do that, then all of you would have a good time when you least expect it.
You should learn to relax. Take note that you share the same blood with these people. If you will behave that you have done something wrong even when that is not the case, then you will only be triggering the other party. The key is to avoid the spotlight and not the other way around. That is how you will have the freedom you wanted.
If they will start to talk about religion, then simply listen. Be reminded that you are not the main star of the show as of the moment. You will have to let the elders talk about what they are passionate in this world and realize that you will gain your turn once they have already gone home to their own place.
You will have to possess reasonable expectations. Take note that the nature of one person is one of the hardest things to change in this world. If you will not accept that, then then you will only be setting up yourself for a big fall. If you can train yourself to not expect anything at all, then that will be better for the position that you are in.
Realize that there is no way that you would be able to win in here. There would always be two against you and the fact remains that they have already returned when you are still going through life. That is enough for you to recognize the age and that you ought to stay quite for once in your life.
Stay away from the liquor bar and a debate. Yes, you have your own religion but that does not mean that you are more righteous than those individuals who do not belong to the same group of yours. So, keep your humility intact and avoid alcohol for you not to say things that you will be regretting for the rest of your life.
Know where you stand when things go wrong. If you are already being humiliated in front of a lot of people for the choices that you have made in your life, then defend yourself. That is the only way that you would be able to keep your dignity intact.
Overall, balance things out. It may be hard but you have to make it. That is how you will still be able to enjoy your family vacation in the days to come.
For starters, you would have to be on the offensive side as much as possible. Keep in mind that it is not your fault that you have Catholic grandparents. You would just have to try to be on their good side until the day is over. If you would do that, then all of you would have a good time when you least expect it.
You should learn to relax. Take note that you share the same blood with these people. If you will behave that you have done something wrong even when that is not the case, then you will only be triggering the other party. The key is to avoid the spotlight and not the other way around. That is how you will have the freedom you wanted.
If they will start to talk about religion, then simply listen. Be reminded that you are not the main star of the show as of the moment. You will have to let the elders talk about what they are passionate in this world and realize that you will gain your turn once they have already gone home to their own place.
You will have to possess reasonable expectations. Take note that the nature of one person is one of the hardest things to change in this world. If you will not accept that, then then you will only be setting up yourself for a big fall. If you can train yourself to not expect anything at all, then that will be better for the position that you are in.
Realize that there is no way that you would be able to win in here. There would always be two against you and the fact remains that they have already returned when you are still going through life. That is enough for you to recognize the age and that you ought to stay quite for once in your life.
Stay away from the liquor bar and a debate. Yes, you have your own religion but that does not mean that you are more righteous than those individuals who do not belong to the same group of yours. So, keep your humility intact and avoid alcohol for you not to say things that you will be regretting for the rest of your life.
Know where you stand when things go wrong. If you are already being humiliated in front of a lot of people for the choices that you have made in your life, then defend yourself. That is the only way that you would be able to keep your dignity intact.
Overall, balance things out. It may be hard but you have to make it. That is how you will still be able to enjoy your family vacation in the days to come.
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