There are these moments during particular days where I have to be astonishingly honest with myself about what I happen to be going through and feeling. I know when it is about to happen because I get this wave of power from the top of my neck down to my lumbar region and I feel my mood morphing and beginning to change. I used to be frightened of it...the sensation of water about dripping down my back. But in time I have been taught the correct way to sit with it.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realizing that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Maybe it is one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you've got to sit right down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to appreciate what is going on inside. I think almost all of the time when someone is hurt and people recognise it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This guidance, while intended to be helpful, isn't basically realistic - as the same person who gave that information, in a similar scenario, could not take it.
The best advice you could give is to truly not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
What follows after is pure stillness. Deep in thought. Numb. I feel truth bubbling to the surface.
Frequently we are going through life not realizing that there are things under the surface. We believe that we have totally recovered or have moved on, but in truth there are still pieces to the puzzle that must be put together. Maybe it is one piece left, just maybe it's just this moment where you've got to sit right down and get quiet one last time, or possibly it demands more of your attention.
There's an engaging balance between moving forward and taking the time, whatever the situation speaks for, and starting to appreciate what is going on inside. I think almost all of the time when someone is hurt and people recognise it they attempt to tell that person to pick themselves up as fast as is humanly possible and forget the past. This guidance, while intended to be helpful, isn't basically realistic - as the same person who gave that information, in a similar scenario, could not take it.
The best advice you could give is to truly not to forget as fast as you can and blast forward, but to sit with whatever is occurring within. To let it all flow through you. The only way you can actually understand what something really means to you, especially in a relationship, is by experiencing the aftermath.
Have a honest moment.
Don't run or hide from feelings that you would associate as negative. They are life's way of balancing you out. When you try to block them or manipulate them, you are putting yourself in a horrible place. Let life do what it needs to do in order to keep you learning and growing.
When the moment is over, then move forward. Don't try to change it while you are in it. Something is trying to chat with you. Open yourself to emotions and let them pour reason into your heart.
About the Author:
Evan Sanders is the author of The Words Of Encouragement, a website dedicated to bringing the best quotes, motivational content on the web, and blogs all to one place. Need some more content to move forward with your life and recover from a relationship? Try these ex boyfriend quotes out.
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