Friday, March 28, 2014

Do You Have The Feeling That Your Marriage Is Falling Apart?

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

Yet, a lot of married couples choose to stick with a bad situation for a variety of reasons. Many of them do not even realize that their problems are serious. You would think that if you are in a bad marriage, you would know it. However, that is not always the case.

Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.

Do not ignore what is happening with your marriage. It is incredibly scary to think about being alone or to come to the conclusion that your marriage is going to be a statistic. You may be worried about your children or how the rest of your family will react to your failing marriage.

However, remember that you deserve to be happy. Reach out and get help as soon as possible. A counselor may be the answer that you are looking for. As a neutral party, he or she can help you and your spouse talk through your problems. They can also assist you as you seek solutions.

There are a few characteristics of bad marriages. These include a lack of intimacy and affection and strained communication. In very serious cases, there could also be verbal or physical abuse. If you find that you never want to go home after work, there is probably an issue with your marriage. Communication is key. If you don't speak to one another about what is transpiring, there is no way you are going to fix the situation.

There will often be a lot of excuses being made by either partner to try and stay away from home as much as possible or there will be a lot of issues that can arise from having a difficult time staying on the same page when it comes to important decisions.

The unfortunate news is that only about one percent of married couples actually seek counseling. Maybe you know what the problem is but you fear admitting it. A counselor can help you bring out the truth and offer advice that can help.

A lot of people have a fantasy view that if there is love, it will solve all problems. Yes, keeping a positive attitude is good, but someone still need to point out the reality and where the marriage is weak. Then, you are able to separate what is real and what is not real. Love can be an infatuation that does not last.

It may be hard to talk about your problems, but the only alternative is to suffer in silence. You can fix your marriage, but you have to be willing to work at it and to communicate openly and honestly with your partner.

Before you do anything else, though, make sure you really want to save your marriage. If you do, there is nothing stopping you other than yourself.




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