Thursday, March 27, 2014

Winning Your Ex Back With Happiness

By Alexandra Peterson


Going through a breakup can be emotionally devastating. Being rejected by someone that probably promised to love you forever strikes to the core of your being. Your ego and self-worth can be damaged so much that you might feel like you will never recover. You feel as if the only thing that will cure you of this malady would be for your ex to come back to you. If the love that you once shared was restored then your heart would be instantly healed. You search for a way to bring your ex back but the dream is dying. You feel like your ex very well might be gone forever. What can you do to ease the pain and eventually attract the love of your life back to you again?

Joy and a love for life truly are the emotions that you must feel before your ex will consider returning. This might sound insane but there is a method to this madness. You may have even noticed this in your life and other relationships. Your best chance for getting back together with the one you love is to adopt a cheerful attitude and eliminate any appearance of anxiety or sadness from your life. You might feel a little uncomfortable with this thought or say that it is impossible. You may even cling to the pain as if it is the last shred of what is left of your relationship. You might even worry that your ex will feel that you don't care anymore if you're not upset but this isn't true.

Fear and sadness are not helpful emotions in your life anymore. These emotions aren't helping you to get your ex back or achieve anything worthwhile in your life. They only drag you down and waste your time. People avoid sad, emotional, depressed people who appear to have a lot of drama in their life. We all tend to gravitate toward others who are happy, optimistic about life and those that have exciting goals and dreams. Your goal is to become attractive to your ex again, correct? Your ex is probably tired of seeing you upset and emotional and changing your attitude will change how your ex views you in their mind and feels about you in their heart.

Being happy might be difficult at first. Your life has been turned upside down. You have lost the person that you used to laugh with and joke with. By forcing yourself to be happy and to think positive thoughts you will start to get into the habit of being happy. Think about yourself for a while and go out of your way to make time to make yourself laugh and be happy. If there is a favorite food that brings you pleasure, indulge in that food as a treat. Maybe you adore ice cream or lobster. Make a meal of your favorite foods and feel the love that you have for yourself blossom. Get out of the house and be around people. People in public can be funny. Experience life again. For a quick happiness fix, watch a funny movie or video that makes you giggle. The important thing is that you laugh every day.

Now it's time to think big. What big goals do you have in your life that you never got around to completing? Do you have a bucket list of things that you want to do with your life? Maybe you always dreamed of being your own boss and running your own business. Perhaps you secretly held a desire to travel to Paris or ride horses on the beach in Mexico. These are the things that you need to make plans to do. These are the dreams and you need to focus on until your ex decides to come back to you. As your mood and attitude towards life improves, your ex will feel the shift in your attitude and be drawn to you. Your ex will wonder what is going on in your life and investigate by either contacting you or talking to your mutual friends.

Even though you love your ex and find them attractive, understand that there are other fish in the sea. Go window shopping at the mall and observe all the attractive people that you see. Check out a dating website just to do some research and you will find that there are other people out there just like you who are single and looking for someone to spend time with. This doesn't mean that you have to contact them or go on a date right now but it might be an option in the future if your ex doesn't realize what they're missing. There are many very attractive people who simply don't have time to go looking for a partner. This is where you will often find them.

Loneliness can be difficult to handle at first but you will find that it becomes easier in time. Soon you will be so busy with your life that you will even forget about your ex for short periods of time. Don't become upset about this. This is natural. As your life settles down and you start feeling better about yourself, things will change. You will have things in your life that make you happy and as a result you will become more attractive to your ex and the people around you. It is often when we are satisfied with our life and truly happy again that our ex comes back. There is a connection between these two so the sooner you start to feel better about yourself and your life, the sooner you will find your ex becomes attracted to you again.




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