Friday, March 21, 2014

How To Deal With Anger After She Cheated On You

By Jeraldine Hemongala


If you find out that your wife has been unfaithful to you, a number of things might go through your mind, some of them probably related to revenge. Then again you might feel depressed, or angry, or all of these emotions at once, which is entirely possible.

Having anger in your heart can unconsciously affect relationships with friends, family and coworkers. That being said, it is important to take measures to get over anger in order to regain your emotional health.

When you have anger in your heart, you will find that it affects your relationships, from your friends, to your family, all the way to your co-workers. Eventually, your life will begin to fall apart, and you will start down a path that you never wanted to see in the first place.

1. Talking to someone about your feelings is one of the best ways, either with a trained professional, or with a close and discreet friend or family member.

Talking to someone will help you clear your head and put things into perspective. They may give you advice but you don't need to take all of it. Take the advice that you think will help you and do it.

By talking to someone, you will be able to clear your head and put your issues into a perspective that you can understand. The people you talk to can give you advice, but that doesn't mean you need to follow all of it. If you listen, you will see the advice you need to take, and apply it to your life.

2. It might seem like a waste of time, but a depressed and angry person should do this on a regular basis as it benefits them greatly. Through exercise, positive hormones are released which will help to fight stress. In addition to that, your pent up energy will be released. Also, exercise will help you to feel better about yourself!

3. Getting over anger can start with evaluating the reason why your wife actually cheated and accepting the situation. It is not about whose fault it is but what lessons can be taken from the situation.

3. Once you get over your anger, you can get to the bottom of things, for example figuring out what why she cheated on you. Rather than focusing on the fault, focus on the lessons you can take away from the situation.

Consider the circumstances. Was she feeling neglected, taken for granted? Was she working in a job that required lots of travel and lonely nights in a hotel room? What could or should be changed to continue with the relationship?

Moving forward means knowing there is a possibility of rebuilding a much better marriage than you had before your wife's affair. Or if not, having another relationship again that is better and happier than the one you previously had.




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